Are you intentionally nurturing your most important relationship?

I have several ladies whose friendship means the world to me. We’ve been friends for nearly two decades (wow, I just felt old saying that). We’ve traversed the topics of conversations from potty training to preparing for college. We’ve weathered the loss of loved ones, career changes, marriage maelstroms, and tensions with our teenagers. While we used to see each other almost daily when our kids were in pre-school, these days face-to-face meetups are a rarity and require intentional planning. But the effort is so worth it! And the same holds true for our relationship with Christ.

No relationship is more important than the one we have with our Creator, Redeemer, and Sustainer. So it is imperative that we are intentional about nurturing our connection with Him.

When the girls and I get together, our fellowship really doesn’t center around the place, the length of time, or even the topic of conversation. While some thought goes into those details, what really matters is we are with each other. Spending time, listening, laughing, crying, or whatever. It is the being in each other’s presence that matters.



Same applies to my time with Jesus.

I need his presence. And it really is less about where we gather, what we talk about (or if we even talk at all), and how long I get to spend with Him in one particular encounter. The important thing is that I am intentional about communing with Him and soaking up His presence.

I’ve found some of the sweetest times occur when I am purposeful about inviting Jesus to accompany me in the everyday moments of my crazy life. Driving to pick up the kids, shopping for groceries, doing laundry. Mundane, day in day out moments strung together like the macaroni necklaces the boys used to make me when they were little—and just as precious.

Being purposeful is about making something a priority. It is about being a thermostat, not a thermometer, when it comes to living your life.

Thermostats determine the temperature, while thermometers merely react to their environment. One is proactive, the other reactive.

Be the thermostat! Set your expectations and act on life to make them a reality!

When it comes to our most important relationship, we must be deliberate. We don’t have to be formal, complicated, or perfectionistic about it, but we do need to be proactive.

I don’t know about you but if I’m not purposeful in deciding what to spend my time on in my “cuckoo for cocoa puffs” life, I will just bounce around willy-nilly. I’ll get stuff done, but at the end of the day, I will feel like I accomplished nothing and neglected the most essential elements of my life.

If I want to maintain the relationships that are most important to me, I need to put some thought into how I spend my time and with whom. And the One at the top of my list needs to be Jesus or everything else will start spiraling out of control.

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I'd love to hear your ideas, too! Share in the comments something you have found helpful for nurturing your relationship with the Lord. Or, share some things that seem to get in the way of your time with Him. (No judgement! If anyone gets it, I do!) You can leave a comment by clicking here.

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